You Got This! You are Confident, Capable, & Complete

Wouldn’t we all like to have the confidence to face all the challenges that life throws our way? Wouldn’t we want to feel 100% capable? Have no regrets? Unfortunately, experiencing uncertainty and self-doubt is a part of life. It may feel discouraging. It may make life difficult. Maybe even feel disabling. However, be assured that nobody has all the answers.

I am a creative writer. The first story I wrote is titled “I can tie my shoe.” It is a true testament to confidence and capability. The story goes like this;

1988. It was during my initial hospitalization that I met my first peers. Although I was not familiar with the concept of “peers” and peer support at the time. I connected with two other patients who were like me. Two individuals to whom I could relate. 

During one of the daily therapy sessions, we sat in a circle and were asked to share one accomplishment from the day. At his time to share, one individual bowed his head and said, “I can tie my shoe.” The rest of us laughed a little, but it was where he was in his recovery at that particular moment in time. If tying his shoe, a task so simple, gave him self-confidence, well, that’s the point.

It is important to acknowledge and celebrate your successes, no matter how small. Maybe you are feeling isolated and apprehensive about being around others. The first step may be to make an effort to engage. Make eye contact. Give someone a smile and a greeting of hello. Soon, you may be engaging in small talk.  Perhaps this blossoms into companionship and friendship. Many meaningful friendships have been made at The Gathering Place.

Do you make your bed in the morning? If so, you have accomplished something. If not, tell yourself “you can do it!” This may be one task that is a small win in mental health recovery. This act, a small victory, acts as a tangible reminder of your progress, reinforcing your commitment to your mental health journey. It is also the perfect way to start your day.

Now, the part about being complete. What is a feeling of completeness? In my personal experience, it is taking chances with positive-and sometimes not so positive-outcomes. There are trials and triumphs along the way. Sometimes it feels as if I am jumping over hurdles. I challenge myself. With each challenge, I become more confident to take on the next challenge.

Find confidence at The Gathering Place. A place where you can be among supportive peers who will not judge you. In fact, they will cheer you on! Hear words of encouragement such as “You got this!” Remember, you are confident, capable, and complete. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

By Susan C. Mader, MSSW, CPS